Grooms Speech | Brides Speech | Bestman's Speech
Father of the BrideGROOMS SPEECH
HISTORY
Coming between the bride's father's speech and the best man's
speech, the groom speech is intended to cover himself and anything
his bride might have liked to say, since traditionally only
men spoke at receptions. (In modern times, it is becoming more
acceptable for the bride to have her own say.)
The groom's speech was intended as an acceptance of the reigns
of power speech, in which he accepted responsibility for the
bride's body, chattels and dowry-, which, by right of marriage
became his.
THE SPEECH
Begin by thank the bride's father for the kind words expressed
in his speech.
Then thank the bride's parents for the beautiful day, (since
traditionally they forked-out for it).
If the wedding was paid for by the bride and groom, then the
thanks can be directed at thanking them for producing such a
beautiful girl, so that she could eventually become his wife.
It is important here to also thank everyone
who has worked to make the day a success and give gifts or flowers,
to bridesmaids, best man, ushers and mothers.
If there have been other guest who have, or are providing a
service, such as photography, dress making, cake making etc,
then here is where the groom thanks them and bestows gift, as
a thank you.
The speech also gives the romantic groom a chance to recall
how he met his beloved and how, through ardent wooing, he eventually
won her away from all her other suitors.
No mention should be made of subsequent nights of passion.
A brief mention should be made of the grooms first meeting with
his new in-laws, and his pleasure in getting to know them. (Sincerely
if possible).
The romantic husband, might also take this opportunity to address
his new bride directly, with some well-formed, well thought
of, words of affection and devotion. Expressing his hopes for
the future growth of their love and material wealth. (see below)
If he feels it necessary, the groom might just add a word of
warning to the best man, who follows him, about divulging too
much information regarding those conquests that were made, before
love and marriage, saved him from a life of wine, women and
song.
Finally the groom toasts the bridesmaids, the ushers, pageboys
and the best man.