P
After drifting in and out of one disastrous relationship after another,
I met a man who was a few years older than me and we fell in love.
He has been married twice before and has a grown-up son and daughter
just a few years younger than me. He is kind and generous and gentle
and I know that he will never do anything to hurt me. Unfortunately
when I took him home to meet my parents it was apparent from that
they disliked him almost immediately. A fact they did little to hide.
Now,
one year on, he has asked me to marry him.
I had
hoped that eventually my parents would come to love him as much as
I do, but they have said that if I go ahead with the wedding they,
do not wish to be invited.
How do I choose between my lover and my parents? How can I get them
to accept that I am old enough to make my own choices?
S
You have already chosen and if you love this man as much as you
say you do, then you are going to have to make your parents choose
between gaining a son and losing a daughter.
It is important that you sit down with your parents and find out
why they dislike your lover. They might see the age difference as
too large, if he is closer to their age than to yours. Or they might
be wondering why his previous marriages failed. Perhaps they see
some of the traits of your previous lovers in your present choice.
Or perhaps they have witnessed you in tears once too often and have
become morbidly over protective.
All girls want their fathers to give them away, and to see their
mothers in floods of tears on their wedding day. So it is essential
that the rift is closed before it widens into a chasm.
